Helping a friend?

The big C word… the dreaded six letter word, that you never ever want to hear come out of someones mouth… Cancer!

Iv lost many people to cancer when I was younger but just before Christmas last year my best friend told me she had it. I felt like my world had caved in, I felt this massive lump in my throat, my heart hurt like someone had pulled on it and it felt as if time just stopped. I didn’t know what to do or what to say; I mean, what do you say ? Sorry? Are you ok? There’s a thousand questions I wanted to ask, but I just couldn’t speak.  I stood there in shock on the phone, with her asking me if I was still there and I some how managed to splutter out one word, “w,w,what?”.

How do you help a friend who’s been given this news? She didn’t want anyone to know so I couldn’t ask, so I turned to the internet. It gave me the simple things of being there, making them smile, taking flowers and taking their mind off everything. It made me think of how I’d feel if the tables were turned. I decided that no matter how hard it gets, I’ll be there, I’ll save my emotions and how I feel for when I’m home, after all this is about her not me! I tell her I’m here for her, I know when shes hurting, when shes upset and I can’t force her to tell me whats going on. But what I can do, is hug her and tell her that I’m there, and that she can call me when ever she feels like talking. So far it seems to have helped and I can see the sense of relief on her face after.

So for anyone out there who is in my shoes or have been there, please feel free to leave me a comment and let me know how to help her deal with this.

This same amazing woman said to me;

“Surround yourself with positive people and the positivity will rub off on you”

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